Writing Personalised Wedding Vows


03/11/2011

Writing Personalised Wedding Vows

At the core of the wedding ceremony is the mutual intent of the parties. It is important to reflect on what marriage means to you and to your partner. Despite the fact that many marriages share universal traits the union often means different things to different people. Feelings about marriage may vary depending upon your personal experience or cultural and religious background. The fundamental question to address before determining what to say should be: what are your intentions? The marriage ceremony is an exchange of solemn promises; therefore it is essential that those promises reflect your intentions.

With that in mind you may decide to write your own vows so that the words you use and the meanings they convey are more reminiscent of your true feelings. If you can’t find the words don’t fret, even Shakespeare recognised not everyone was made to woo. You can refer to the list of wedding vow examples for inspiration and ideas. Don’t be put off by a vow just because a few words do not sit right with you, they can easily be changed to something you prefer.

If you want to play the part of the poet you can refer to classic or modern poetry or even create your own. Here is a list of love poems that you can use or draw inspiration from. Of particular note are poems by Nicholas Gordon and Ed Walter. If you don’t have the time or ability there is also the option of enlisting an expert who specializes in creating personalized wedding vows and can tailor them to suit your unique relationship and give you advice.

Some couples even choose to convey their vows to each other in song. There is a beautiful example of a bride singing her wedding vow to her husband below. Unfortunately not everyone has the voice of a song bird and more typically brides and grooms will recite their vows as opposed to singing them. When writing your own vows you can also keep in mind the affect you want them to have on your partner and your guests. It can be useful to consider the atmosphere you want to create on your happy day. For instance incorporating comedic elements into your vow may help to create a more jovial and laid back mood whilst pouring out your heart may impress upon your guests and your partner the seriousness and sincerity of your pledge.

Below is a list of topics that can help you personalise your wedding vows:

  • How you met your partner (particularly where the circumstances are unconventional)
  • Sharing a story of your first date or kiss
  • Was it love at first sight?
  • Sharing your hopes and dreams for the future (children, growing old together, travel plans)
  • Declaring your intention to endure life’s trials and tribulations together
  • Listing the things that have you gained from your partner (how you’ve become a better person)
  • Your partners unique attributes, things that may seem trivial to others (a dimple, a cheeky grin)
  • If your partner is from a different culture you may want to incorporate words in their native tongue
  • The moment you proposed, how did your partner react?

If you plan to make your vows comedic your guests will no doubt enjoy it, however it’s important that some parts of your vow still convey the sincere and heartfelt commitment that is befitting of a marriage ceremony. Finally, no matter which vows you choose they will be meaningful to you and your partner if they are truly representative of the feelings you have for each other and the promises you intend to make.


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